Determined Disability

Ms J suffered a stroke and has lost the use of left arm and leg (the whole side actually).  She can stand on both legs but requires a special cane and lots of support when entering or exiting the van or bus.  Mr J is a patient down-to-earth gentleman who truly loves his wife as he patiently helps her around and is always seen with her.

Physiotherapy was a weekly requirement for Ms J and she went alone using the chauffeur service.  She made her way to the van slowly but always with a smile and appreciation for the drive around the corner.  I have equipped the van with a special tool that sits in the open hook on the door frame at the seat level.  Ms J used this leverage tool to help her support herself as she got in and out , while I lifted her lifeless leg into the van. 

Her determination every time she walks to lunch, dinner or out to her car or my van and to eventually stand and walk on that leg truly inspires me.  In 2015 she fell 4 times in two days, startling herself every time.  Her memory is playing tricks on her now and she has appointments made that do not exist.  She now goes everywhere with a care worker to help her.  But oh how she loves to go.

 

Lately the doctors have told her that she is basically wasting her time with 'physio'.  She was naturally demoralized but has accepted this and stays inside in her "grounded" state.

 

Mr J is showing his age and when anyone sees this fine couple making their way they are treated with great respect and obvious admiration.

 

May God bless Ms J as she copes with her disability with a strong determination and Mr J for his strong love for his precious wife.

 

We all could learn about relationships when faced with such adversity.